We fear and deny it's existence. However, vulnerability is what emotionally connects us to others; especially our partners. I am reminded of this in sessions with couples and while reading Elayne Savage's, Breathing Room. She brings up many aspects of our internal self that can lead to healthy or damaging ingredients to a relationship. There are many types of vulnerability, but my focus is on relationship-vulnerability. We must put our walls down and give into our vulnerabilities while our partner does the same, or else the relationship "feels" one-sided.
We dress a certain way, act a certain way, or even drive a certain car, just to mask our vulnerabilities. We do this because we think that others will love us more for this because it's what "I think people want me to be." We begin to believe the "lie" is the truth and deny our authentic self. Thus, the little girl or little boy inside gets ignored and eventually rebels, and starts drinking, smoking, or choosing other "not-so-healthy coping mechanisms.
I challenge those of you in loving relationships to slowly let the walls down and let us see who you REALLY ARE!
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