In my practice it is more common than not to hear couples make this paradoxical statement. "I love and appreciate my partner, but I don't desire him/her sexually." He/she is a wonderful person who is loyal, kind, and funny,etc.... but we haven't had sex in 2 months."
It's disclosures like this that have been keeping therapists and researchers up for years. More importantly, it leads us to make relationship "hypothesis" that we then try to examine and put to test with sample populations sitting on our couch. How can two people love each other but not desire each other? How come the longer we are with someone, the richer our connections, memories and rituals become; however don't find fulfillment in our sexual encounters? How come GOOD LOVE DOESN'T GET US GOOD SEX?
Well, I encourage you ask yourself this question then send me a private message should you feel compelled to participate in my little research project. Again, I, like most researchers don't have a formal documented hypothesis. Rather, I just want to "peal the layers" to see if there is a common thread to how couples answer this question.
On that note pardon the premature ending to this blog.....but Stay Tuned!
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